How To Let Go Of The Struggle
Have you ever found yourself wishing you could let go of the struggle you seem to constantly find yourself battling against?
For the longest time, I had a reputation among my friends and family for being someone who worked harder than others worked, took on more than others would take on and could achieve the results that others didn’t have the stamina or commitment for.
I was always pushing for the next thing, always upping the stakes and every time, right when I thought I couldn’t do anymore I’d pull something out of the bag and I’d feel like a superhero.
When I look back at my achievements they are nearly always coupled with a memory of the struggle I went through to achieve them – the sacrifices of my time, and all too often, for a period, my physical and mental wellbeing too.
You see I was addicted to the struggle. Without realising, over my life I had developed a belief that success doesn’t count unless it is hard won. I had romanticised the struggle as being part of some ‘worthy underdog’ story.
What was worse was I had no idea how to let go of the struggle and break the pattern.
Does this resonate with you?
Looking back I can see where this idea may have come from. Like most people there have been times in my life when I’ve had to dig deep out of necessity – and the skill to do this is something I am grateful for.
But it doesn’t need to become a lifestyle choice…
The part where I got confused was to measure my self-worth by my achievements. I felt that I was only as good as the last thing that I did and constantly had to prove myself (spoiler alert – it turned out the only person interested in my ‘proof’ was myself!).
So why I am telling you all this? Because it doesn’t have to be this way. You too can learn how to let go of the struggle.
I’m entering a new chapter of my life, one where I value myself for who I am not what I can do, and if any of this sounds familiar to you I invite you to do the same.
My mantra of the moment is ‘let it be easy’. The first time I said it to myself I felt a lot of resistance – that’s how I knew it was an area I needed to work on!
How does that feel for you? Are you ready to learn how to let go of the struggle? What could you do today or this week to allow things to feel easier?
Here are some ideas to get you started:
– Give yourself deadlines that you can comfortably achieve with time for breaks
– Give yourself only 1 main priority each day and let yourself focus on it
– Reward yourself for starting a task not just when you finish it, eat that chocolate bar whilst you work!
– Ask for help from others, whether it’s around the house or paying someone to take a few tasks off your list
Let me know how you get on in the comments below
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